If you’ve RSVPed to a wedding this spring or summer (or two…or five, lol!) and happen to be planning your own wedding, use these as great opportunities to see what really matters most to the happy couple and to the guests at the event. While you’re sipping wine and enjoying the love-filled evening with your fiancé, validate some of your thoughts on your own wedding goals or look for details thatyou may be sweating over that just don’t really matter. You may conclude YES, it’s worth it to spend a bit extra on a same-day edit, but NO, you don’t want to use that famous baker after all, because while the cakes look great, they taste terrible.
We’ve listed a few thoughts and questions to think about at the next wedding you attend!
A unique venue may be worth it if you can save on decorating the space to create your ideal evening ambiance. Factors that can help fulfill your wedding vision could be moody dark linens and uplighting or heavenly light linens and twinkle lights. What aspects of a wedding speak to you to set the mood?
Did the other couples list hosts, personal attendants or other roles on their program? Think of all the volunteers (along with their fancy titles) it takes to put on a wedding? Do you have enough people on board so you won’t have to worry about any details on your big day?
Are there statement pieces that you notice more than others, or decor you barely noticed at all?Perhaps the centerpieces make the difference for you versus a highly-decorated dessert table. Maybe renting/borrowing an item (from someone who just had a wedding perhaps?) versus creating it on your own is the way to go.
Did other couples serve their food buffet or plated style? Were there options for those with a gluten free, vegetarian, or paleo diet? Did they offer appetizers or have a snack or candy table? Since food is typically a large percentage of the budget, decide your priorities. Should you simplify your food choices so you can swing a fancy decor piece or second photographer? Or are you a foodie who needs an awesome menu no matter what?
What really made their wedding a blast for you? Maybe an interactive game, photo booth or ice breaker activity had the guests mingled and excited for the evening from the start. Did the DJ get Grandma on the dance floor?
It doesn’t hurt to do your research at an actual wedding. Of course, be realistic about what can be accomplished in time before your wedding date and what fits your budget. But it’s fun to use every wedding from now until yours as a way to spark ideas and remind you of the true meaning and purpose of the day!