Four Solutions for First Dance Anxiety

If you have more jitters than jitterbug when it comes to your First Dance as a newlywed, never fear. We’ve got some workable solutions for you.

  1. Keep it simple, short and sweet. Ask your DJ to help you find a shorter song. “In My Life” by the Beatles clocks in at just over two and a half minutes, while Tony Bennett’s “The Best Is Yet to Come,” Otis Reading’s “That’s How Strong My Love Is,” and plenty of others are even shorter. “Parachutes” by Cold Play is under a minute! Practice some simple movements in the privacy of your own home a few times a week leading up to the wedding, and the whole thing will feel natural on your big day.
  2. Hire a choreographer. A pro can work with you and your true love to find out what moves work best for you, even if neither of you have any experience at all. Call local dance studios for a recommendation.
  3. Call in the troops. If the idea of people watching you and your spouse dance is what’s bothering you, then feel free to bring up your wedding attendants in the first few bars of the song. Or, have your parents and grandparents join you. You can even change the focus of the first dance to be about every married couple at your reception.


  1. Skip it. Really. Much as we love the First Dance tradition at wedding receptions, if it is causing either future spouse a ton of anxiety, it’s not worth it. Your Complete Wedding + Events DJ would be happy to brainstorm some alternatives that will reflect your relationship as a couple. Other newlyweds have shared a First Karaoke, a First Rubik’s Cube Battle, a First Light Saber Duel, and a First Hula Hoop.


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